One issue that has plagued us is my wife's infidelity. I think much of your advise is spot on. I've been trying to research this on my own and can't figure it out. Is she bored with you or is she dealing with emotional problems and trying to fix them with false intimacy? The ecstasy of soul sex, which for me could only be experienced in any depth with someone I fully invested in. When I was younger I dated a lot and by the time we got married I'd had enough sexual partners. We are very strong together and I think that for the most part we have a loving and honest relationship with each other, sometimes better than the couples who say that they are monogamous but then around behind each others backs and have meaningless sex with strangers. It gave me the impression that her unemployed grandfather of a boyfriend suggested she do.
A warning- while all of this may be fun and is likely healthy, I have found that while many men enjoy and are aroused by being with a bi-sexual woman, the ''extra'' activity, even group activity which involves them, can be hurtful, and the man may not even be aware his feelings are being hurt. Honestly, this sounds less like poly and more like I wanna fuck lots of people. I know I am wired for monogamy. I ask because all that I find about life-long polyamory families points to much more marital security with the added intimacy of members who know each other as committed sexual friends. It's been interesting and hard and wonderful and confusing.
He does not remember exactly when Rinaldi proposed the open marriage experiment, which went on from 2008 into 2009, which seems strange in itself. This includes possibly removing posts asking how to find a third or a unicorn. And I know that watching her and me together was an incredible experience for him as well. For what it's worth, I know exactly one couple that went from cheating to functional, healthy polyamory. From what you write, I can tell you are a good, kind and caring person. He tried to lie and cover it all up and delted all the evidence. Or perhaps she has been having an affair and wants to use polyamory as an excuse.
Bi-curious My husband and I have had an ''inclusive'' marriage from the beginning. I am glad that you are explorig your sexuality, and that can be very freeing and exciting. The fact that some people indeed do this doesn't make it okay. She even taught him , a feat that he had never managed. She has already told you that she is not in love with you. And I wasn't sure he should have to.
Quite honestly, multiple relationships are logistically difficult, stressful and an emotional roller coaster. You should have stood firm on your belief. I hope you don't have any children in the middle of this. Pretty fucking hard some days when I just want to dump her shit on the front lawn and burn it. I do think that if I see a man with a wedding ring and I assume he has a wife, I'm being very hetero-normative and I aught to know better. Didn't many start out at first by cheating because they didn't know how there was another way? I wish you luck and success in your decision. I personally know three different couples who had open marriages.
I have to pull together my own feelings and thoughts in the middle of a storm of jealousy and resentment. This initially took the form of a threesome as she wanted to include me in the experience. Basically though, the two of you have three options: you either break up, you agree to be monogamous which she really has to prove herself on , or you go through this process of opening up your relationship in a healthy, respectful manner. Hey… maybe boring monogamous marriage is ok after all? Sounds like your friend is hanging on to hope. Your wife could live without fucking other men, as shown by the periods in her life when she did not; despite the fact that she does not need to do that, she prefers it, and prefers to do it behind your back, until the point that she may lose you. Finally, I decided it was time. I happen to have an awesome man and he would just vomit with the thought of that.
And I had every right to judge his behavior. Emotional stress, constant worry,extra responsibility with the kids while she lets another man do whatever he wants with her. Please be strong and you are in my prayers. It is generally met with crickets. Maybe he will get tired of watching his wife go fuck his best friend.
She tried another man once and hated it. I don't believe she wants an open marriage. Stuff that telling the truth would have been so much easier. I understand what you are saying. Adultfriendfinder is one website you can look on to find a partner for romance, friendship and sex. My admonition about jealousy needs a little clarification, here, Madison.
She wants her cake and to eat it to. Just that you understand your reaction to her request to see another man. Ann, even if you and me were lovers and friends, for hubby, dear, be all the lover and intimate friend he desires, while you do your best with gaining from him what he desires you, his life mate, to be for him. Changes by one side that are not wanted by the other are just a recipe for desaster. What do you think about starting an open marriage? It only gets worse from here if you're the monogamous type. .