A lot of the times he will not come home at all. He is 41 now, I thought as he got older it would stop somewhat, but he has come home at 2am once again tonight. It appears the alcohol mixed with a lack of sleep is an even bigger problem. We started seeing a counselor and there was hope for two weeks, until he starred drinking again. Also a few years back, I had seen a counselor at a family life network near me concerning my own anxiety.
I have given him loads of chances. I love my wife or at least i love the person that she can be when she is sober. He would be drunk around his kids be verbally abusive. Any suggestions for me are appreciated! He seemed a lot happier all the way around and promised me the drinking was going to slow down once we had our own place. I think he is going to kill himself as he has still not apologised to me even though I have supported and helped him get through this and continue to visit and offer support I left him when this last binge started as he was getting more and more aggressive. I wish he would wake up to his out of control drinking. He can go about 5-14 days max without a drink, but never longer.
We often forget that the full version of the latter observation - from Seneca the Younger - reads errare humanum est, sed perseverare diabolicum: 'to err is human; to persist is diabolical. Leave him alone It always works and gives desirable results. I know that I am not perfect myself and there are plenty of times over the years that I reacted wrong. I hope there are success stories of recovery. Thursdays he drinks 6 to 7 drinks starting while our child has a friend over for a playdate, keep in mind both children are 5. I hate that I shake constantly and rarely talk anymore for fear that I'll say something to set him off.
He cracks it very easily and calls me names. Men often eat too much meat and not enough healthy carbohydrates like sweet potatoes, carrots, and corn. I have always just asked him to cut back becuase i dont think there is anything wrong with a person have a drink or two every so often. Even a small outburst can immediately throw one off-balance and ruin a perfectly lovely day. That he can be a completely different person that doesnt beleive the stuff he's says and does when he's drunk? I wish he would just walk out the door and never come back.
I have a few other suggestions, as well. He is on meds for anxiety and depression and has been seeing a counselor. He chooses to be this way and get no help, he allows the word to come out of his mouth. Everyone loves my husband-he is the life of the party and I am the anchor who is weighing everyone down. I no longer trust him with my children, as he now takes them to the bar with him. He feels because he works hard all week that he deserves to be this way on the weekend. I no longer trust what he says to be truth.
I have tried to set him up in his own business since he would not initiate it himself , but he is not taking the ball and running with it. It is very hard for me to work a full time job and basically raise our son alone. The drinking wanes, the drinking exacerbates. He says I am always so negative, and a pessimist, which I admit I now am. I went from being able to have a sufficient savings to nothing. He says he is no alcoholic and never drinks on his own or everyday.
Oh I have told him He embarrasses me just hurt his feeling for a day then back at it. He keeps forgiving me but I feel awful and ashamed! If the two of you are willing to seek help and work on your problems, it could be very rewarding for both of you and it could bring you closer together. Perhaps that is why it has worked for over 38 years. However, I think that it must be very difficult for those unfortunate to have the drunk in their lives to do so. He has also been a very successful business man. He has however cheated on me more than once, lied, disrespected me, been highly inconsiderate of me, embarrassed me, stolen precious time and memories from me and made a mockery out of something I value more than anything, my family — and I have let him all these years. Hi Sad, I just wanted offer my thoughts on situation.
As you focus on the fact that God loves you and considers you precious to Him, there will be a real difference in your life. When drunk, he becomes verbally abusive and violent, although to date he only hits doors, etc. Al-anon is an organization for partners of alcoholics that provides support and practical help. He would always find a way to persuade me. He says it is just friends but i have saw thw texts and they are way over the top flirtatious! Yeah right, am I a slave or does he thinks that he got a bill of sale for me when we got married? He show no signs of getting help with the exception of going to an Alchohol Treatment Counselor last year for an evaluation. He is an alcoholic but I wonder where he learned his blame and shame, sticking me in a corner and never apologizing.
Is he really a mean boyfriend, or did you just misunderstand what he said. Neither is perfect, but marriage is better because of the continued effort on both parts. My next bo of 3 yrs was more of a disaster. I am so scared for hope has run out. Discuss your marriage problems on our forum. My prayers go out to each of you and your families. If so, what did he try and what happened? You will find a list of places in your state where there are al-anon meetings.
Life is not what i thought it would be. I get images of opening the car door and jumping! He has always been a social drinker- once he gets going he cannot stop. The thing that bothers me the most is how unaffectionate he has become. My family deals with him for the sake of keeping peace. This only makes him angrier and he accuses me of harrassment. She gets angry about everything.