As much as I have searched for my paticular horror to ne explained, I habe yet to find it or at least a parallel. I divorced him yet still stayed. Leaving the other unsuspecting person totally confused. He absolutely jumped down my throat. Usually the pleading and begging to return starts when the narcissist is sure you are not returning to their control. My dad is a narc and he was neglectful emotionally as I was growing up.
And now he is disgusted by me for starting to make threats to him when he does hurt me about calling the police on him…he goes nuts! I will be moving to another state in a matter of months where I won't have to worry about him knocking on my front door. By the time the minister arrived, he had made up an excuse that there was polygamy in the Bible. I was bullied at my university by a whole gang of Narcissists, yes they hated each other but they can organize against a common enemy. The only time I felt real tenderness, or love with him, was during sex. I gave him injury which caused him to rage. When their partner approaches them with suspicions, both will act outraged that they could ever have such doubts about them. He is and always will be like a brother to me.
Most of the research is taken from prison assessment records. After he passed, my friends took me to the hospital emergency, thinking I was having congestive heart failure. It is my good friend, a priest, and family that gave me hope to see the hell could end. Yes Linda, that is what the research says. And as in any healthy relationship, the Supply person, believing that they are both good friends, begins to fight for the relationship and so challenge the narcissist as to what is actually happening between them.
Apparently my confrontation of his behavior is too much for him, yet when he came back he said he wanted us to be completely honest and call each other on our 'stuff'. When you are a child you consider your parents above others. A plethora of on line connections, relationships. I usually dont write on forums, however; I habe read so much on this topic because I have fallen victim to such indescribable behaviour. He has not got that much in his bank.
So when I saw his truck pull into my driveway, I came out my house while on my phone and slowly strolled down the ramp I have a handicapped ramp and went to my car to get a paper that I needed to get as he pulled up. And now recently when I offered her a little surprise after work, she flew into a rage. I have to look back at my life with him and remember all the craziness I believed…and sometimes I get very angry! I also found this website in my travels trying to find information on this subject it has a lot of articles on family law that may relate to your issues. Really, someone calling me Babe is not going to kill me or send me over the edge…. I say yes and she increase the cost until it becomes out of control. Diagnosing somebody based on what you read on a website is stupid and dangerous—none of the people in this thread—or perhaps even the writer of this article—have the expertise or training necessary to clinically diagnose a person.
He may recede into depression as a way of hiding. They're unwilling to take the chance that authentically opening themselves up to another could lead to a personal fulfillment beyond anything they ever experienced in growing up. My ex once told me about somebody rejecting him. So this is what happened when I had to end things. When I finally did leave, I found out that he had been working his manipulative control over other people to prevent me from getting the acknowledgment and opportunities that I deserved - even when he claimed to be in love with me. Yeah right…I asked him the night he walked out what he wanted to do with that freezer and he told me to keep it.
You would apologize and even cry for them to get back the relationship. When they feel they have them where they want them emotionally they begin to show their true colors. Talk to your counselor about it. I believe that he has probably already lined up the next object, or soon will. He just felt that the car should just keep going going going, despite his neglect.
There were lots of others as I discovered in his texts, including 1 he caused to go to the hospital from a blow to the face from what I gathered. These narcissists are vindictive and often become stalkers. A priest told me that he has demons and that he is not spiritually healthy. Sweetie was one that come one else actually commented to me about him addressing her with and the comment she made was like…. The injury results from their parents' deficiencies in being able to adequately nurture them, and so make them feel loved--a prerequisite for self-love. Done with what…me…great want a divorce? The truth, though, is that every narcissist will react differently… there is no one standard for how a narcissist will react when ignored.