Copyright: William Berry 2014 American Psychiatric Association; 2013; The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Do the best you can and acknowledge your efforts. Their frightened children began asking what was wrong with Mom. I would take him to see another doctor or a psychiatrist. Identifying Depression Tim and Sandra's story likely rings true for many couples. Find a way, or perhaps multiple ways, to gain personal strength and rejuvenation.
Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Wisconsin. Most of our time together has been happy, however over the years he has regularly taken himself off to bed, often for days at a time saying he had a migraine but wouldn't take any painkillers?? The Burden of Depression As my wife walked with me through depression, I did not realize the weight and burden this journey would be for her. It sounds like you are remaining strong with all this and I don't know how you do it, but something has to give. I had little energy or motivation. As his depression is lifted, he seizes opportunities both in his marriage and at his job, that makes him more successful.
Depression can make people behave in ways that they normally wouldn't when they are feeling well. If you spouse talks about suicide, take it seriously. And this does happen often in. This was somewhat of a shock to me. So, as a loving husband or wife, what do you do if you feel like your spouse is being swallowed up by depression? In addition he may also have a Thyroid problem which makes people very tired and irritable, or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. In response to your question, no, Eve never did go off of the medication she was on when she was pregnant. After he is treated medically for depression, focus your attention on the way you treat each other in the here and now.
I do want to make him happy and myself happy, but when I try and explain my needs and what I want, he is defensive and doesn't listen. Did you feel like giving them a piece of your mind? You may have some idea of what you can do to help your spouse, but if you are not sure you could also ask. Depression is debilitating for people at times, it takes time to heal and recover. Eastern thought looks at compassionate detachment as an enlightened trait to strive for. How did you stay patient and loving? You need a listening ear so as to vent.
I feel that he has years of self-analysis ahead of him before he can be at the same level of self-love and self-knowledge that I am, and that I am married to a man that feels more like a child to me than a husband. When someone is severely depressed, even the act of getting out of bed can feel like a monumental task. I felt sluggish and lazy. On the other hand, I have learned, by spending most of last year in therapy, to reclaim my self-worth and value my needs as I once did before I met him. You can also help them by reassuring them that asking for help is not a sign or weakness or something to be ashamed of. Series About: Tim and Sandra sit close together on their porch swing, holding hands. Let the positive things be your motivation instead of letting the negative things weigh you down! Thank you for writing this! Get me out of the house, go do stuff with me, and generally show love and affection.
I won't lay all of his problems or even the majority of his problems at the feet of his depression, however. Just try again the next day. My wife did the same for me and I am getting better. I read your story and the comments, which gave me something of an epiphany. Listen carefully to the response. Karen Originally posted by: Rob on 1 May 2011 Karen, I was reading a parenting book today which happened to have a section on parental depression.
Eve felt like she had a terrible flu all day long, could keep very little food down, felt extremely dizzy just to be on her feet, and had no relief from her debilitating symptoms no matter what we tried or what the doctors recommended. Recovery requires hard work on the part of the person with an anxiety disorder and patience on the part of the partner and family. We are fighting the good fight and most of time we are winning. Breaking down larger tasks i. The past couple of years he has gotten worse and worse to the point he hardly leaves the house or accepts phone calls from friends.
Your loyalty is wonderful and I'm sure your husband will appreciate it eventually, even if he doesn't now. I was hospitalised against my will for a poultry 2 weeks and given amazing treatment in a modern mental health facility , caring, by most of the staff and given medication and I engaged with a Psychiatrist. At least he only drinks 2 beers a night. I will stand by my wife, even if it kills me. I felt sad all the time. I never anticipated what he would actually suggest. Your health is very important, both physical and mental.
I can't tell you all how much it meant to read your kind advice. Offer hope and encouragement to your spouse during this difficult time, and take care of yourself, too. However,being a strong woman you need to solve this and make sure you get back to a happy,cheerful and normal life and lie on bed with peace. I never saw this monotony in you. When a person is in the grips of a serious mental illness I believe that any action by the health services is completely justified. I imagine he has been to have tried so many different medications. I desperately want that for myself and my husband and I keep thinking he'll get better.