He undermines my contribution to our household. If not that in itself tells you what you can reasonably expect for the future. This will tell you whether to end your marriage and then if you do decide to do so, you can start researching co-parenting options and how to make the best decisions for your children. It could be that you two have just ended the honeymoon phase and reality has now set in. I new marriage already broken to pieces.
It was his way , and not a very good communicator. Go ahead and work on your junk!. If only a marriage counselor could solve this riddle for them. It is cleaning and compromising and paying bills and raising kids and all sorts of other things that I am sure I was not thinking about at all when I said I Do. Before couple wt him, I was with the man I really love but he broke my heart. But If you are having those ugly conversations for real, not only are you not in love but you are actively killing your love and you should get help or leave.
This article is my reality, now. I tried so hard i changed for him. Dear Chokwadi — it sounds like what you would like from marriage is very different from what your husband wants and you have to decide if this is how you want to live your life. I feel guilty for even thinking these things because my boyfriend is so lovely and had never done a thing wrong — never cheated, never abused. When someone stops opening up about personal things, it usually means that they have started guarded themselves. My real question is, with all of this going on with her Mom, is it at all possible that she will eventually come back around to her normal self? The last three months have been very hard. My kids always saw me crying on those days and they would make me cards etc.
My marriage has been dead for at least the last 5 years. She came for about a month and a half but stopped. Anyone on the outside would think I'm utterly crazy to even consider ever leaving this marriage which I'm not in a position to do anyway , but I can't help feeling like I just don't love him anymore. I dot know if yours will come back. We started dating and got engaged within 7 months.
He is not interested in children. I just dont know what to do at this point. However I find myself a prisoner to its financial demands. He gave me stuffs but at the end he still says means things to me bec i dont have a job. You have so many legitimate reasons.
A year later we moved to a new city and I thought this was our new beginning. At that moment I told myself that I had to do whatever I could to survive, even if it meant finding a penpal or somebody else to show me love and acceptance. Thinking about it now, he was never my type and I was never in love with him. But it is also commitment and love and trust and having a friend who will be there til the end, so I think that all of this are things that have to have some balance in your life and you have to decide where you are on the spectrim with this person and if you are ready to let go of much of that that the two of you have worked on together for this long. At the time none of that occurred how he would see everything in his perspective. He is the center and will always be.
Do you have a healthy fear of him, or zero fear of him? A couple days ago he asked me to take him somewhere the next day I said no but my mom told me she seen him with a whole bunch of friends at the casino. My husband told me he did not want to be with me after living with me for 15 yrs. Thank you for the quick reply, yes my wife is talking to a therapist and has been for a couple months. After 12 years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. That was right before Christmas, so I just tried to push it down.
Again he tried to contact the girl and they exchange messages again. I work full time and spend time volunteering. What are you waiting for? We did not discuss a separation which may have been helpful and nor did we discuss. Its very hard on me. I hate myself for staying for as long as I have.
See someone who is objective that can help you both walk this out. I love him too but just not the same way. I have recently found the situation more intolerable as my husband has negative conversations about me with his mother. He gets the job perfectly done. But only you can answer that question.
I always tell myself I need to always carry my cross everyday and I will do everything for my husband to see Jesus and real love through me, but sometimes, most of the times, it is just hard. I am very lonely and miss him a lot. I would work my 10 hour days, come home and take care of the kids and house until work released her for the night. Hi Matilda, No one should be telling you how to feel. But some of it I know is because I had a hand on my shoulder guiding me. In this case, I'm talking about the love between a friend, spouse or even family. But I am just really tired.