I view the writers position as loving, not subservient. You need to do the same - make her see that her actions or lack thereof are making you suffer suffering being stressing, worrying, etc. In certain states that have weird laws if you let anyone, not just children alone stay longer then a certain amount of days you need to treat them like tenants and give them so many days notice etc. You will just keep hitting your head against a brick wall. I welcome comments from readers, whether they agree with me or not.
Stop worrying about your sister and your mom and your relationship with them. As David says, it seems he's put his career before his relationship. In a way, she has you over a barrel. With my relationship, the gulf just kept getting bigger and bigger. When I finally started to end it with him, he berated me. Have I been too nice and too focused on our financial security? And her reason for not seeing a professional seems childish in itself.
It amazes me that one of the things we cherished in each other during our dating relationship was our willingness to be honest and address our own personal issues head-on. As we get older females sex drive go into 6th gear anyway and mens slow down. Like the writer of this blog post, I believe that my role is to truly make the house we live in a home. Stay covered when you need to leave the house, otherwise pretend everyday is a 90 degree day. No wonder divorce rates are through the roof.
I fear that when I am dead she will litterally have nothing to support herself. The problem is, I can not get full custody of my grandson until she does something to him. Reason: I keep my woman much too busy now. His wife has now come around to see that it was the right decision — unfortunately I am yet to reach that stage with my wife. The nerve of some people. We hope you know that we love you regardless.
I work and I am in school. If anything they need to go more to learn how to cope with things. Tell her that she is beautiful, bright and intelligent and is wasting a lot of time sitting at home doing nothing when she has so much to contribute to society. The court system doesnt give a damn about justice when it comes to the father. Be honest with your girlfriend about wanting her to move out.
And then, whatever she says, you should respect it. It certainly isn't essential for her to work, but since she can't even manage to get to classes or finish homework, it seems like she should pick school or work and stick to it. When the husband works all day, comes home sink is full of dishes, laundry is all over the place, visible dirt is all over the carpets, dust is everywhere, and the mom says I was on the net job hunting!!! You might want to start at step 1 or, if it is bad enough, you might have to start at step 3. Your son is only doing as much as what you are expecting of him and like many kids he is not going to do one thing more than he has too of what you expect of him. There seems to be a very pronounced lack of empathy. My wife claims I am a selfish and hateful man to attack her grandchildren by making them homeless. Your response to this blog is proof you fit in the category of being a blatent male hater.
Listen to your husband and what Alanon has to say. I know you say it is because you are worried about your grand kids but you have got to let go and let your daughter make her own mistakes with her kids. All in all, I think being unemployed has made us closer. That is why you have to vary your activities all day and go for boozefest lunches with the ladies. None of this is a dealbreaker in of itself, but if this responsibility gulf widens I can't imagine this will work for either of us. But when I sold my house and moved 1000 miles to live with him, I gave up my living-out-of-a-suitcase lifestyle and seriously cut back on my client work.
There are plenty of men out there that choose to stay home and their wives bring home the money. You can have your own life of course, but actively showing interest and enthusiasm for your partner deepens the love and bond you share. A blow job is not an insignificant act. I am limited what I can do though, because I had 5 strokes plus have sceroderma, not too many people heard of this illness but it gets painful to move. Best choice I ever made. Why not reward yourself for your skills and talents and try to put them to use in an economical sense that will lessen the breadwinning off the boyfriend? For example, when she made her ignorant comment about fast food workers, did you talk to her about it or just let it slide? Did her bf fall even more deeply in love and propose or did he eventually take her for granted and get a little sidepiece action… or maybe he began to resent her when she got a new job and could not longer be catered to? Long story short, your young and your allowed to do stupid things, but if you don't enjoy spending time with her because of her nature you're going to need to talk with her. Being at home for the kids after school, shuttle services and taking care of you are plausible excuses, but they are excuses and flimsy ones at that.