He got one already and I felt bamboozled. Tell him you would like for him to change his personality as well, like back to the way it was when you two first met. Scenario B If she always dressed and behaved the same way since meeting him, his reaction is not understandable. Unhealthy relationships come in all shades… even the fauxgressive ones. The only thing she said was, oh good…via a text, and never mentioned it again. And trying to look good for his friend is also a big turnoff to me…The biggest thing you should know is to give your guy enough space! We fight over this repeatedly. Tagged as: , , Question - 14 April 2017 22 Answers - Newest, 18 April 2017 A female age 41-50, anonymous writes: My boyfriend does not like that I have kept the surname of my ex husband.
You seem like a lovely person and I hope you can experience this feeling. He doesnt trust me and stops me from Talking to any guy. I wasn't suggesting you go and demand some guy give you a ring to change your name. Did you try to understand your boyfriend? Looking back, I am so grateful that I dumped him. Prioritize and make those priorities clear.
Also if he is acting this way its possible that he feels stuck too, and he may be sub-conciously trying to sabatage. And a lot of the things that frustrate me are red flags…like I had to really put my foot down about implementing ideas from consent culture in bed once I found out that it existed because it made me feel so much more comfortable. I just… man, this is just not going to go well no matter what. And to make matters worse, he always reminds me of how stupid and retarded I am and says that I have to admit that I'm this way and this is the only way I'll improve. His mom is very controlling and I am starting to realize that he is turning into her.
Then we make up and acts like it never happened. We were traveling and my boyfriend didn't want me to spend money on my meds. I don't care about what other people think; I care about hanging on to my identity. He eventually ended up raping me. But we can talk about these things and know that we have something special. I get this, I really do.
So she got these friends, and including guys which at first was like woah but i changed stopped being jealous, And shes been changing more and more which wehave fights about. Right now I get my hair cut straight across once a year. Maybe she asked him what was holding him back. Because he is six years older, he thinks he has a right to mold you into who he wants you to be. Even his good points can start irritating you.
Then if it seems reasonable and justified; give it consideration. Is he protective of you and helpful with decisions all the time? Shortly after moving in, that all changed dramatically and I felt like I had sacrified everything to be a part of his life, while he had sacrificed nothing. He told me he would never put me in that kind of a position. I never have any problems when he wants to do stuff or go out with his friends so i never really understood why he had these problems with me? Personally, I would run for the hills…this relationship sounds controlling. I am filled with regrets myself. Sometimes men do not even know that they said or did something that upset you unless you tell them. I was seeing someone for a while but work commitments and family got in the way.
You may get guilt trips, or reversals of previous judgements and begging for forgiveness, or scathing personal attacks, or any combination of those or other tactics. I think you are happy with the idea of him. I mean, you know this already; I just think sometimes it helps to spell it out explicitly. Giving him space or ignoring his is not just for his benefit to let him know he did something against your wishes, but it lets you think about the true severity of the situation and calm down evough to civily talk about the situation so that it can strengthen the relationship rather than tear it apart. Any ideas on what i should do? It will be tough and if he is controlling he will do everything to get you back and say everything that he knows will hurt you.
Then he goes on and on and on about how maybe we should break up then guilt trips me and makes it my fault. But I also want to touch on one other thing — you said that you still want to be best friends with him. We need to learn to live together and to grow together. He may just have that latter viewpoint. Although the psychic you once saw might have given you some good, practical advice, it might be more worth your while to consult with a therapist who specializes in personality and relationship issues.