Yet, these similar personality types can be both the best of friends or the worst of enemies. Typically, the things that initially draw opposite persons to one another end up being the same traits that create conflict and resentment down the road. It has been a light at the end of the tunnel to make these discoveries and begin relearning myself. . I talked to others, but we became inseparable since. Thank you Kate for commenting! I am certified in Myers Briggs and am passionate about helping people understand themselves and others better. In real life a lot of stuff between people depends on their past and personal experiences.
It takes a ton of work for the benefits it provides, much more than some other pairings. And to do so, we often turn to things like online dating quizzes and love horoscopes. In extreme circumstances they tend to be accusatory and pessimistic, often thinking the worst and shutting down emotionally. He is teaching me a little more about myself, and I am finding a gentler side — embracing mercy over justice in my approach to life and other people a little more if you like, while I think I am teaching him to trust in himself more, and not care so much about the opinions of others. I wanted a strong wise husband that I could be proud to stand next to…instead I got a weak follower that is just happy to stand next to or behind me and have me make all the decisions.
We were both living in our 10-year-old cognitive functions. Within three days I had broken up with my girlfriend and we had our first true kiss. She's always consulting her friends before she makes most d…. We are also shaped by our home environments, our experiences, our relationships, our birth order. I get along with my mother the best in the family because I feel that we've overcome a lot more hurdles. After so long together we generally operate from co-pilot but we have many decades ahead of us. I had become so used to denying myself and feeling there was something wrong with me.
I am so competitive on the road while he is so chill and laid back. Two Introverts could, in theory, function well in a romantic relationship. I get the encouragement I need to socialize, even if from another introvert, and he gets to feel less hermit-y and boring compared to me. And he is still enthusiastic to see me whenever I visit town. Thanks for writing this piece! This is such an important factor in a relationship and indeed society at large. He lacked a decent mother figure growing up, which he appreciates in me. He has stonewalled for years at a time, locked the door to our relationship.
. We complement each other in every way. This is so because of the following factors. Ti sucks when hes doing Fi, I become cold and analytical whicb he doesnt need or appreciate. Jan, I am glad that your relationship as blossomed for so long without any major changes. To grow as individuals, Intuitive Introverts need to develop their Extraversion and Sensing functions. I could be wrong though.
We just get each other — good and bad — and allow each other to be who we are independently and in the relationship. They enjoy traditional and stable working environments. Finding hobbies and new interests and getting a cat has helped me in that area in order to give him his time alone and get along better. He even gave me a promise ring 3 months after first talking, and even tho that sounds crazy, we both felt we just knew each other from childhood or from forever, like we had always been together. Discussions, especially deep-level ones, are like foreplay for this combination. Seems like the worst of both worlds.
My emotional sensitivity wears me down at times, but my husband teaches me to separate myself from the emotions of others. We were mutually into each other at one point about a month ago but I have heard not only from them but from other sources that they have commitment issues and sometimes they tend to cut people off. I felt like it was useless to be her friend. And when I inevitably do something that questions his competency, I will remember your words and try to do some damage control. We really slowly gradually fell in love those 3 months, doing long distance!! There is a palpable anxiety about her - she's always asking questions and fretting about her love life and her social theories. While not necessarily their fault, this should comprise at least as much of their relational attention as trying to see and diagnose problems in their partners.
My problem is that how do I get that across to my wife? The insidious influence of the inferior may explain, at least in part, why those who marry before the age of 25 are far more likely to end up divorced. And, what are the alternatives? In the latter, opposites attract; the thinking partner is attracted towards the warmth and compassion that the feeling partner has to provide, whereas the feeling partner likes the objective and thoughtful approach of the thinking partner. It's not like i try, it's just that i either think they are always secretly talking about me behind my back or that they just don't get me. I was like whoa for such a T that was very feely what you just did. From my experience, I'd say it can definitely work if both parties are willing to work at it.