I went through the exact same thing. I said he didn't have to, and that he had gotten me off once and it was great. I was just picking up the pieces and trying to move on when I got this email. However my thoughts take over what is right or wrong and I am still very confused. You may even find it unhelpful and unproductive. Hope this helps and really not trying to be mean, just real and kind at the same time.
Tell he that you don't need sex to be happy, that she makes you happy enough and if you just wanted someone to sleep with you wouldn't keep coming to her door. Don't threaten her, but let her know that when she gets upset, it makes you unhappy too. I do love him but I have to get passed my insecurities of his ex wife. But now, I am torn because everything that I prayed for, God given me the otherwise. Your advice really helped me previously, I declined the job offer I had from London because you were right, I would only have been doing it to try and salvage something that was too far gone, and left a good job i enjoyed for the wrong reasons. You become empty inside; just an obsessive addiction to validation.
When you realise this you will find it easy to stop them from emotionally hurting you and move on with your life. Finding a purpose in your life may be key to stop obsessing about your ex and getting on with your life. My question is quite simple. Have you talked to a counselor? I truely believe she is who I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. After I had moved I found out that he was really spending alot of time with her. Dr jekyl mr hide showed up in her personality. I know she has treated me poorly for years and I know she is not the one for me, but I still feel like I love her and I get jealous and worked up thinking about her with another man.
What do you need to do, to get out of this downward spiral? Everything happens for a reason. The problem comes in when we feel guilty about thinking of past lovers. Forcing it is just as violent on you as the psychosis of the validation seeking. However, every time I have the desire to text him I have just started finding projects or hobbies to take on when the feeling comes up. But the more I thought about it, the more it really started to bother me. He then insisted and I insisted that it was okay and he didn't have to keep doing it. The fact that this girl was the first intimate relationship you've ever had means that you have no experience in letting go.
I was in a 9 year old relationship no kids. Especially since he is a really nice person and always responds kindly to me and still cares. I hope that by doing some of these exercises I can begin to enjoy more of the moments I have for myself rather than receding to the past or worrying about the future. I had one serious relationship. Also, defriend him on Facebook.
I deleted my facebook, I have good friends in my life, and i hang out with positive people. Whatever you need to do to stop, do it. Ive been a very goal oriented person and i love life but now i dont have the energy to plan for my life and lost interest on the things i used to do. Don't give in, even if your drunk. If you want to try to get back together or if you simply want to turn the page and move on and find love with someone else, know that I can help you to feel better by analyzing your situation. I was very hesitant but my kids love him and wanted to go so I went.
I do love her, but there's no way for us to make our own past if she can't accept mine. I prayed for faith in each other and or faith in God. I told him I didn't have anything to compare it to and I loved everything he did to me, because quite frankly I totally did. I don't want to be with her anymore. I kept going to her work because I didn't want to risk her household. Tell them, it may be embarrsing but still, they can honestly be help.
We had a secret physical off and on relationship for 3 years before I got married, had kids and moved 1,000 miles away. Thanks for making this thread, it really helped me. Not only do you converse liberally about it, but also you enjoy having to complain to your girlfriends that you have such a desirable boyfriend. She says that shse needs time to process all thar has happened within the last week. That is the downside of not being in a fully committed married relationship and having kids. Have you heard of Byron Katie? I remember what my aunt told me.
When was the last time you visited your doctor, and had a physical exam? I was shocked at his email. May we love fully and deeply, and may we live in the present moment. You become free and no longer a slave of needing to possess someone. My ex fell for her again but continued a cold relationship with me for another two years when I finnaly had enough and I asked for a break to figure things out. Decide that you will set 15 minutes at the beginning or end of the day — and maybe a 15 minute stint at lunch, too — to simply obsess.