I make her breakfast every day and when I dont she complains. I also got married for better or worse. My heart goes out to this young lady, because I fear she has just experienced what may prove to be a fatal flaw in her fiance. When she gets home its studying, and shes gone two to three days a week at school, then two away at work. That is not your responsibility. If so, how did you respond to the other person? If you continue putting me down in front of others, I will take steps to end our relationship. She can say things like god knows all your money does is pay the bills.
Supper theirnwives dreams and if possible help them reach them. My mother and I are both just waiting for each other to die I think. When your 13 year old son can see this, it makes you see things differently. I just don't know why he would treat her or would want to treat her this badly Howdy exceptional blog! Oh I forgot, the whole trouble in the first place, is because men don't like to and won't discuss or communicate with their wives on a verbal level, only a sexual need level. Where are you men finding your women? I am not abandoning my family. His criticisms seem so unfair and so unwarranted!!! I used to have such a zest for life, but now I just pray for death - either him or me.
I told him this morning I thought he was being unreasonable and rude. I pretend I listened but if he were to ask I will not know one word of what he said. I don't want to hurt her. Learning the motivation for your spouses bad behavior can make it easier for you to empathize with your spouse and get your spouse to start behaving in a more respectful manner. When I confronted him with his constant ridiculing, it is more than the above but I don't want to fill up alot of space, he gave excuses for each one.
Definitely believed in buttering up girls then smacking them down to make himself desirable. She mocks me now, and says im moping when I truley am concerned about us. Ive always known he had a temper weve lived together for 5 years. He always has a smart remark to say about me. What does this say about what is happening to us? He never listens to anything that I tell him bothers me. To be fair I can understand how my wife feels. I apologize but I often feel like the damage is done.
As for my friend, we are still kind of friends, but she rarely calls or gives me any thought unless I call her first or something prompted her. Its gottin to the point that Im always on edge when he is around. We have spent the last 50 years changing how men should view things that they feel guilty for wanting what comes naturally. I am also wishing to share my story as maybe I too can help someone feel not alone and gain perspective. I want to be a good wife.
People always tell me how lucky I am to be married to such a wonderful man. I do my best not to personalize her remarks towards me. Know that many men are just selfish enough to let their women keep solving all the problems and completing tasks as long as she doesn't say anything, complain, or bother him and ask for help. People need to give each other some space and learn to accept and love. It took some honest self-reflection on my part to realize why I was like that. I know the source of it and why. He has always said many times over and over again, you don't do things right.
It's when you know this is happening and you're torn. Couples therapy can be effective at helping you both to change your dysfunctional relationship dynamic. I would only say to you pack a bag grab what is most presoius to you and go. Setting a boundary might not feel good right away, but it is a healthy thing to do for both of you. Most people egoes get in the way of their relationships. You sound like a hard worker and a loyal person — that sounds like a good person to me.
You aren't asking for much and it isn't shallow… Actually I bet you are a thoughtful person! He told me he had been done talking since he was forced into work at shotgun point on Thanksgiving 2001. That means so much to me. I find his behavior quite selfish, then he gets angry with me when I don't want to jump in the sack with him. Both men and women have needs and they both should be respected equally. Whether you are or not, you could leave him and stay single, until he passes from this world. If they continue, and this is perhaps the hardest part of all, then you need to start making connections elsewhere and start leaving these people behind you. Show him physically that you appreciate the efforts he puts in around the house.