If you have a significant history of cheating and after 3 yrs, just now you're saying you're not attracted to him, may mean that there are deeper issues here for you to deal with, not just your husband's looks. In the case that I am correct, I don't know if there is any coming back from this kind of situation. Did you find them physically attractive? Childhood is an experience unmatched by any other phase in life. Something in your post rang a bell though. Tell yourself that this is normal and will get better over time.
The guys can get quite nasty with each other. This shows an interest in things that fascinate him too. I am so petrified of hurting him. A few months later, I began an affair with one of his friends, which my husband is aware of. Admittedly, she has an unhealthy attraction to unavailable and unstable men, so I don't know if pursuing her heart is necessarily the best decision. Cut back on portion sizes and high calorie foods. .
I also recommend secular resources when appropriate. I knew day one that I was getting married to a man I didn't have chemistry with. After a failed relationship I kinda jumped in to the arms of another guy quite soon? He is a wonderful husband and a great father. I think a better starting point is to explore why some women feel the need to control all sexual encounters in a marriage. At some point, he thought so lowly of me……. I know how devastating it is.
I'm you, fast forward 10 years. Ending a marriage without giving counseling a chance is like sitting on a sinking ship whilst you stare a life raft. I have read that marriage is mainly friendship, but surely you need sexual chemistry to survive. He blamed this on stress and depression, but a year ago I found out it was due to the sex addiction. I avoid kissing him, I just am 100% not sexually attracted to the guy anymore. I am attempting to really look him in the eyes and be present with him, but I feel like he only looks back at me objectively and almost pitying like i'm weak and helpless.
Again, my apologies for the long-winded whatever it is………. Hi Adri, Still just swinging between tolerating and being repulsed. You need to realize that this is the exception. All he did was work, sleep and do his shopping and doctor stuff. I am not going to lie that I was sad that he said I might like this other woman and I am not jealous because she has kids and drama too.
He is also 14 years older than me. Where there is no love, no respect, no cuddling, no fun? But I don't have the guts to tell him how I feel. Yeah, I'd be perfectly fine with him having an affair. Fantasy takes a lot of people through intimacy when they are not quite turned on by the reality. I know that's why I stepped over the line and cheated. And don't forget: beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
If there are already issues in your marriage, the fact that he is not handsome may bother you more then it would, if your marriage was happy, please take some time to consider this deeply, you may find that working on your marriage, causes you to see past the issue at hand. Realize Your Feminine Power Men are wired to be attracted to the. Ruling out porn can be a bit trickier, especially if your husband is more tech-savvy than you are. My husband rejected me for years because of low testosterone, and sure I was angry and hurt, but at some point, you just have to move forward. I feel as if i'm wrong, but at the same time, I can't look at him. To tired, headache, not feeling well, period, blah blah blah.
So i believe your atraction to him is not strong because he doesnt show you alot of love and makes you feel extremly wanted, because i think good treating and affection from a man makes you like him and want him more. I've never been a fan of the idea that one person needs to fulfil another persons each and every need. It is awful to live without chemistry and it is tied to your happiness and the happiness of your kids. No one wants to cuddle up to someone who smells. Obviously it would be healthier if she could tell you how she feels rather than take it out on you. Hi Alex, I replied to someone else's comment above with more details of my story.
What becomes of her husband? According to many, their husbands have changed after marriage, they do not find their wives anymore beautiful and attractive, and it is some unknown mystery to them what has caused this transformation. O — Offer to do one thing that will make his day go smoother. Things will go out of control in every possible way too especially if your spouse finds out that you are cheating. Ive drifted so far with my emotions that i cant even bring myself to be intimate with my husband. At some point, something inside me died bc of her attitude toward sex and pretty much any … Read more » Also let me add.