Focus on money and save your money. High percentage divorce and fact that 70% of them are imitated by women, which leaves the man financial ruined. I think that for me, personally, chemistry is having that emotional connection, or a very strong connection of one or both of the others. But not everyone can do this. Tell yourself and others that you have given up on dating is nothing but a self defense mechanism against continuing to date and hope for better and an attempt to justify not taking any action to improve your dating life and relationships.
See, what is a strong work ethic for one person may be workaholic for another. The boyfriend of a friend only dated older girls until his peers got more mature. And then there is stuff you have the power to work on. I'm honestly floored by the variety and depth of the responses. I hope, and maybe it's too arrogant of me to hope this, but I hope that maybe this thread has normalized some of the things you might be feeling. I grew up in poverty, worked my way thru school, lived in homes without running water, battled breast cancer totally alone, wondered if I could feed myself.
I am surrounded by great guy friends and a wonderful guy in my life as well. They must be attractive, kind, make enough money, intelligent, etc — all the special qualities without which we would not love them or want to be with them long-term. I've become convinced that only attractiveness matters. You can also just not marry. For what it's worth of the 2 I felt chemistry for-the first I had crazy physical and intellection attraction nothing emotional would ever develop though. I think the unconditional love bit is what happens after you are in a relationship.
In academia, as you are a student, that means going to class, being prepared, fully engaged, rather than skipping class, hanging on the beach. The answer for men who don't give up is that they don't really have a choice. It certainly helped me feel better about not lowering my expectations. What is there to explain? Part of me thinks it isn't worth the trouble. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.
You have no sympathy for females. And yet, despite the ignominy of this, when he goes on the radio to point out the bleeding obvious, not only will the extremely middle-class and ostensibly successful media not accept this, but he is even lumped in with hateful and prejudiced people, called delusional, and it is implied that he is a misogynist. I'm a sucker for a nice voice and a good set of shoulders, but I also want to have conversations with someone who asks me questions about myself!!! Just because the guys won't say that openly is because they have nothing to gain by saying it. Twenty five is a bit old, it is possible that something you are trying is chasing them away. I swiped you right on Tinder. Plus, they seemed to think they had all the answers and would refuse to listen to reasonable statements that did not align with what they believed.
Look for someone who will appreciate you back. I wouldn't want to do it. Unless you are very weak and she is very strong, you should be able to do this easily. They might disagree on the route and the tactics. I've been in relationships with friends and it can work really well. Not having a real sex life is the same as being dead. And it has more to do with cultural and legal expectations than anything intrinsic with women.
A lot of relationships fail because sometimes people look for what that other person can do for you. If they are going to label me without even knowing me personally then why should I care about their opinion and desire to be alone? I hear about divorces everyday. I do not make a lot of money right now. And unless you are willing to work at it, put aside your differences, and reach a happy median, it's just not gonna work. This sort of support has been denied to young men in the modern era. I'm a grouchy old man, at 45.
Not saying I'm the best looking person in the world, but I thought I could do much better, especially with my capacity to learn and be productive. I am a Master Yi Main. Cool, cool, you'll just hang out and watch their love blossom. I Give Up On Love. I've been on OkC and other sites off and on for the last 3. You can only explain a very basic principle so many times.
Many women can fuck the top 20% of males more easily. For me it's not about 'giving up' nor 'finding the one' I have zero trouble meeting, dating or having strong emotions for women. People lie, and cheating has become a norm it seems. The fact that you can 'take the time' to fail to explain why over 90% of custody cases take children away from their fathers, why over 90% of the homeless are men, 90% of workplace deaths or homicides. She got angry—and he accused her of unfairly escalating the situation. After disabling your accounts, you go to bed feeling pretty proud of yourself for being strong, but the commute to work seems to take a lot longer when you have no faces to swipe. You just assume I said all that because I'm a woman when ironically I didn't say any of that.