Let go and see what life, God will bring to you. The day will come when you can see him and feel nothing. But, like you perhaps, at that time I felt it was genuine interest to learn who I was. On his best behaviour no doubt to secure her in. He controlled every aspect of our lives. I had no response from him whatsoever. During the dump I think I called him every thing including Satan and then told him he was worse than the monsters who abused him in childhood.
He just sat there not even offering help :. You may already know it. How do they move on so quickly, I have to wonder. He constantly requires female attention. Always was told it was me — I am the one with the problem.
What made him like that? Or does the N simply move on in an instant to the next toy without a backward glance? Hi, I just found your page and watched the video about sacrifices you have to make to date a narcissist. It sounds from all you describe that indeed you were living with a narcissistic personality disorder. In the fall of 2012, I reconnected with a guy I went to high school on Facebook. Will continue to work on my own growth and healing while finances play themselves out. I spent 4 years with a man who seems to be a Narcissist. Me and my girl go for lots of walks and enjoy nature and will continue to love and grow… Peace to all and I wish you the best in recovery… Gosh this is such a painful process! But again he moved on. Love and strength to you! It is nice to see you are in agreement.
It has been four years of him coming and going…reappearing then disappearing. Still do but have come to realize that I will be getting no satisfactory settlement. I second guess myself all the time. All my love to you. He had to have total control.
At the beginning of the relationship when he was on his best behaviour being seductive I found it weird but compelling when he did that but the idea that he was trying to look through his prey makes perfect sense the bad way that relationship developed as he became more and more mean and controlling. That scared him a bit so he did back off the females. I starved, I took pills, I exercised everyday, I went on diet. Want to harm the child even more? I re connected on linked in and other social sites such as twitter and facebook to increase my base and network. My partner who told me I was the love of his life and that he had been waiting all his life for me started a relationship with someone who i thought was a great friend a friend no more one week after I had left. I want to get over him, but it is going to take along time.
I went and had a great time. If she never thought she was a good business woman and you own your own business, that is magnified. I was devastated to say the least. Well, this approach to narcissists is interesting indeed. This is a real trauma. Our son made him look bad I suppose. You deserve a life free from pain.
I moved out 6 months ago. But, at the time, it never entered my mind. Nobody is on my side. So, I rented a hotel room for the week, and i had 4 days off back to back…so I moved into hotel to deal with all this. I still occasionally have flashbacks to things he did and fall into a funk for a while.
Love yourself enough to let this person go. Long ago, I was there, and he cured me for good. We continue to make excuses for them, forgive them, feel sorry for them, take them back, believe them again etc, yes I did all that over and over… Melanie you are so right, they never do have a great life. Although, I am sitting here crying because of him. Ultimately, I learned how to forgive myself and that is a critical first step.
But yet drugs can do anything? I was very hurt but eventually picked up the pieces and went on. Because I want you to always remember me. I availed all my wisdom to understand her but the relation ended up in a drastic way. He let me down at a very bad time of my life. Your parent is self-absorbed, talks about themselves in grandiose terms, and is overly critical. With her afew weeks now onto the next who appears to be lasting abit longer which makes me think he has changed for her although they only see each other at weekends.
Sex- amazing, unrealistically awesome and emotional, like the love-making is something that I cannot forget. We wore not dating we wore just friends and I kind of got mad at him because he broke my heart and started dating someone else. From confident young woman — general manager — I become shaky nerv wreck, I never knew what I will do or say what will set him off. When bad things happen, they must blame someone. I am currently in month four of no contact with my ex narc of nearly five years. You just helped me to start moving on.