Try to get him to understand the joy it would bring the pair of you and how you feel he would be as a father. For more information go to:. If you know a friend who is also struggling to talk to their partner, share this post with them. Does he seem panicked or concerned? My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now, and he's been talking about having a baby together. But my husband actually made some good points about our finances and living conditions. One of the greatest joys in this lifetime is having your own child.
The time has come and gone. Over the next few years, we got our lives together before trying again, and now we have a one year old that we both completely adore. Then, say exactly how you feel. If you do it for his sake, you will again, regret the decision. I suggest you talk with your older lover and tell him you wish to go to college and that you might consider the possibility of trying for a baby during your second year. That way you can enjoy having a baby without actually having one and get to experience what you would be in for once you do have a baby. Does he want to have a baby? The government also recognizes this as the usual path of life for its citizens, and that is why it gives so many benefits and privileges for parents and children.
Take it at a slow pace. I'm still in high school, theirs no way I could take care of it and still pass. Or even have sleepovers and go out on the weekends? The mother of his baby lives two hours away in a small, rural town. Try and look at it from his view point most guys wont be comfortable having a planned baby with someone they have only been dating for about yearish, most need about 3 or 4 years together to know the relationship is solid us guys do hear about some nightmare cases where they have a kid things dont work out, the shit hits the fan and the mother uses the kid to hurt him by denieing him access to visit his kids, not that i am saying you would be like that Violet but its something thats on the back of our minds Plus hes saving for a house so maybe he wants to get his poritys sorted out first! At that point I was already completely in love with him and wanted to be with him. Now add a baby, do you really think he's going to stick around? The decision to become parents should not be taken lightly.
Try to bring up the concept of having a baby. Gentle discussions about how you both feel and the expectations you each have of what you imagine life would look like when you are ready can help you understand where your boyfriends thoughts are. Not only will you have a clear answer, but it could potentially kick-start your efforts to have a baby with him. Listen to his side and discuss various points together. In this particular case, a brooding man will be less careful about getting you pregnant, more interested in engaging in conversation with you about having children and become quite excited about others having babies.
The best way to do this is to just simply sit down with him and talk to him about it, say that you are ready to have a child and ask if he is as well. I didnt even have sex until I was 17. But it might be worth the wait. He starts pointing out cute babies with their parents to you at the grocery store, the park and the coffee shop. If you have any concerns about your own health or the health of your child, you should always consult with a doctor or other healthcare professional. Trust me the only thing in life you need to worry about right now is finishing school so that you can have a future. He genuinely loves you dearly.
You can do better than this guy, just imagine how controlling he's going to be 10 year from now if you had a kid. Parenting is hard enough when there are two parents, but being a single mother is its own brand of difficult. I would highly encourage getting married before having a child since anything can happen. Some women and men get anxious when they even think about discussing baby making with their partner. Your body isnt finished maturing until your about 20 years old. Don't say you can't live without a man, be independent and don't rely on anyone for your survival if you have family and friends that care about you.
He's trying to control you don't let him. An unbiased third party can really help you both work out your feelings and express them better. You must ask if this is something you are willing to take on. I am now 5 months pregnant with the same partner and initially he said that he wouldn't make me go through another termination, but now he's saying how selfish I am having a baby with someone who doesn't want one. Remember, a man who wants to be a dad will mention it at some point in your relationship. I'm younge and I'm pregnant I'm actually terrified I always new I wanted a baby just not so soon.
I don't think he realizes what having a baby entails. Ensure that everything is ready and financially set for a baby. Normally this might not be a major concern; however, I have two children from a relationship, and I wasn't married to their father. They are dealing with custody issues, ex bf's, trying to afford daycare, affording and finding housing, dealing with not being able to go out, etc. Trust me on this me nor you are ready for a baby our bodies haven't finished maturing that doesn't happen until your twenties and I'm taking all health classes. Even though you may think all your cares about is drinking cheap beer, hanging out with his bros and having massive amounts of random , it actually isn't true. If both parents aren't 100% ready to commit to becoming a parent then the job of parenting can become even more complicated.