Thank you so much for reaching out to us, your sisters, to take us into that deeper walk with our Lord! Maybe you are even questioning whether you were made in His image. However, I think those years are equally hard if not harder for young men. Go out on a date. I mean, we all have those days where we are just plain exhausted. I believe the greatest thing we as Christian women can do to regain our sight, our spark and our sizzle in the bedroom is not to try a new technique or purchase new lingerie.
That means in our own maturity we must decide with much prayer what is holy, undefiled and honorable. Yes, the drive for sex is not only driven by love. Oral sex is just using a spouse as a sex object, without any procreation possible. We waited until our wedding night for sex should've abstained from smooching until then too. Especially if you have been doing it with the same person for 10 years. One way to start building trust is to expose any shameful area so you can deal with it together and constructively. Ask Him to change your way of thinking to a mindset that will be honoring and pleasing to both Him and your husband.
I am not opposed to oral sex within marriage, but I simultaneously respect that some people do not share my sentiments. And everything You make is good. Over time, though attitudes about sex may have become more liberal, married couples still suffer from sexual problems. The Bible commands wives to obey and submit to their husbands. Hi Troy, we appreciate you stopping by. If I see my wife's wild side and she lets herself into the sexual experience it so bonding for me as her husband because I want her to enjoy me and my ability as a lover. With my brand new wife.
She had a real problem overcoming about 30 years of deep repression and shame about, well, pretty much every possible sexual act. I also tackle some of the tough sexual questions that many are afraid to address from a Scriptural viewpoint. There, the very mention of the word would have turned ears to scarlet and had the deacons popping antacid pills. You were created in the image of God for the purpose of bringing Him glory. Posted in , , , , , , Hi friend! Amant resides in northern Louisiana with her hubby and newborn daughter. I too was married to a man who did not want to touch me.
Other Recommended Christian Sex Resources for Couples Facing Pornography in Marriage Do you need more practical advice about how to find healing after pornography or on how to prevent pornography in your marriage? Far from not mentioning oral sex, the Bible seems to recommend and encourage oral sex in marriage. One need to look no further than the role of foreplay in our sexual encounters to know that sex is rarely about the simple physical act of intercourse. Stand up for your marriage. Sex bonds a couple together. Hi Lilly, I understand what you are saying. Some Christian sex books actually address in detail how to give oral sex.
We spend so much time boxing it in and judging it that this fact is easily forgotten. Learn to let the small things go. I read of all the great marriages in the comments. Over 10 years of always initiating and sometimes going through emotional hurt of refusal, this is enough! I do not know was was wrong with my wife as she paid me little attention for many years. Which brings me to another point. Yet I find the topic so biblically underdeveloped yes, sex is in the Bible! God created sex and wants us to enjoy it, not fear it. In the context of sex, trust means you are comfortable with your spouse and able to express yourself fully and vulnerably.
It's motivating me to wait on her hand and foot because she's serving herself body and soul. Some readers have asked me about oral sex beyond the biblical angle, wondering about the physical aspects. Also, great advice to pray about sex. So, what do I do? But God also gave us the Songs of Solomon. You will never know what a difference you have made in my life and how that will change the rest of my marriage. It touches upon something incredibly personal. Making a Change If you are living in a sexless marriage, or you are not having pleasurable sexual experiences with your spouse, there is hope! It can be goofy and silly, with both of you cracking jokes until tears roll down your face.
They have plenty of questions, but not enough people willing to give answers. Over time, other pursuits become more important, even godly ones. The book itself is not a lengthy read, and Christian authors have written commentaries on it, if you want to dig deeper into it. So sex was never really the issue. How to Improve Emotional Intimacy for Better Sex in Marriage While physical passion is important, we know that emotional intimacy is also a key factor to better sex in marriage. Here are three quick tips for more intimate lovemaking in your marriage: 1.