I'm 24 years old and was diagnosed with a year ago. Cheater moving out in May so fairly soon. That makes you a real catch — someone to cherish, not reject. This initial outbreak is a 10, any other ones are 1's on the pain and intensity scale. If you do get the symptoms, your doctor can give you tablets or creams and the outbreaks will get milder as you get older.
It doesnt mean hes cheating. Which is so upset it's difficult to deal with. Then, you both can figure out what to do to minimize the risk of transmission in the future. Others have herpes and do not know it because their outbreak is mild and goes unnoticed. I really need some advice. The only time that it is really contagious is when you have a break out.
And I guess that communication is the key to all sexual issues. Then, let him know how you are feeling. But as a person with herpes myself I will tell you one thing. In my more cynical moments, I think of it as the party that only I missed. I was on birth control, we love eachother and wanted to have the added intimacy of not using a condom, and we were unlucky. Mercefully, I am asymptomatic and have never had an outbreak.
You could be the parent whose family home got foreclosed on when he left. Mostly because i didnt want to scare him off and second because i didnt want him to tell his friends and the word get out. The only people i found i could remotely talk to was sexual health nurses and doctors, i would say 50% of these were absolutely no help at all making me walk out of the clinic feeling no better but then i saw one elderly female doctor and she made me feel hopeful, 'normal' and like a human being again and for the first time gave me positivity about my life. Has he ever had a cold sore that you know about? The outbreak does mean you got it from somewhere but it does not prove when or from where you got exposed. He was willing to take the leap. Several years ago my boyfriend whom I had not seen in 3 months due to us living in different states showed up at my house for a scheduled visit.
Sue his ass for knowingly infected you a incurable disease that will stay with you forever!!! In fact, many people who have oral herpes contracted it as a child. He refused to seek treatment with the military doctor for fear it would go in his records. Studies say 1 in 6 women and 1 in 9 men have genital herpes. Herpes is not routinely tested and many doctors also don't inform patients that the test is not included, so when people do have symptoms and receive a diagnosis, there can be feelings of confusion and worry about whether a partner was dishonest or cheated, when their partner simply may not have known about the infection. Get a copy of his test results and check to see that the doctor used one of the better herpes tests from our. Like your compassion and self respect and honesty and integrity.
She doesnt have a problem with dating now. I knew I would have to tell him before we were intimate; I needed to let him choose whether he wanted to risk getting infected. The real shock besides getting these diseases, was that he denied it was him and told me I must have contracted it from the hot tub! If he has no outbreaks should he take valtrex or any other antiviral medication to reduce risk of transmission. This test has not been around all that long. Our first conversation was decidedly undramatic. When you dont have a breakout it isnt likely that you will pread it, especially if you are on the supression therapy.
Like my friend said when a man is all in mad or not he'll make it work. It sucks but glad you told him before because If you didn't, the pain will be twice much and he will definately leave you. Herpes is just as contagious from the lips or mouth as from the genital area. Taking Suppressive Therapy such as Valtrex can reduce the number of days of shedding the virus by 50%. My ex gave me herpes and it fucks with me, I remember him saying he envied my ability to enjoy sex for its own sake and giving me this infection ensures I will not be able to enjoy that freedom again in the same way. Plus, why keep going if you can't fully enter into the act. And knowing that you won't be able to be with a clean person and infect them if things don't go well with your current gf.
All that said, herpes is easily treatable. Hi, This is the first time I've been on a forum like this but I don't know what to do and I'm experiencing so many emotions :- I had been seeing a guy for about a month and a week ago we slept together. It's also obviously interfering with your sex life which is just a pain literally and figuratively. It could be your tone. I couldn't ever fathom doing that.
Or at least find an excuse to start being protected. You just have to be honest. I thought it was just me — my body, my diet, in short my fault. Shore yourself up and invest more in your general awesomeness than your datability now. Use of the forums is subject to our and and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms. In the meantime, you should also take a blood test for genital herpes as a baseline for today — so you know your current herpes status — positive or negative — with or without any symptoms.