They can't quite agree on what it is — are you trying to get laid? Now, we never had any intentions on sleeping together or anything. And moreover be true to your feelings and don't be an opportunist by staying friends. How about when he posts a picture with his new girlfriend on his arm at the same restaurant he took you for your 23rd birthday? Keep in contact with her. If you can make her laugh, it'll be more likely she will want to be your friend. You may fall first; he may fall first; perhaps, you will fall for each other at the same time. Because I did this, only the genders were reversed. Never bring up your love for her again.
The more you accept social invitations, the more likely girls will invite you to future events. She admitted that she actually did have feelings and was only pushing me away because she couldn't handle seeing me with someone else. Everywhere they turn, women are used as sex objects to sell products. If she says no, you can move on and be thankful you didn't have any huge declaration. It is highly incorrect as you are not a true friend if you are being an opportunist.
Making out is generally a bad idea too. This is how you can do it. You had those feelings, and you were too much of a scaredy pants to act on them at a time when you would have been embarrassed by the rejection but not devastated by the loss. It came about while we were travelling. We're human beings with emotions and it happens. If she never mentions your physical appearance, it's best to not mention her looks.
It's one of the reasons she doesn't depress me. Girls need to know that you respect them and value their companionship, even if you don't want to date her. If you struggle with that, then by all means, go your own way. It can be as simple as a passing remark about your teacher's ridiculous tie or a question about what time practice is next week. Till then stay away as she wants you to for you love her more than yourself.
I would never do anything to jeopardize my friendship with her, or with him. If a little boy comes to school talking about being in love with a girl in his class or making public declarations about her beauty, it may seem romantic or sweet at first. Not stick around and let resentment and bitterness brew. When you have a good time with a girl, she is more likely to remember the experience. No one should ever feel forced to maintain an uncomfortable friendship. Compliment her in a non-sexual way. And it turns out, the best way to do that is to avoid befriending members of the opposite sex, particularly those who are already in relationships.
Yada yada yada, the next day we were together. Wonder what he said about you behind your back, cause he sounds like a real winner! What's wrong with having a friend who is a girl? I have had a crush on my close female friend for a while, and she doesn't feel the same. I clearly wasn't hot enough for him or so my internal monologue went - I just couldn't stand it anymore. So it really depends on the guy's age and personality. I'm not saying we deserve a medal for dealing with the pressure of everyone's suspicions and expectations and still managing to maintain kick-ass friendships in the process, but.
Yes, I confess that at the back of my mind was the thought that I could be in with a shot. That said, I'd respect that decision. After all, she's like your sister, but better no fighting over the bathroom. For women, friendship is about trust. And then many drinks later, in the words of the old Frank and Nancy Sinatra song, I went and spoiled it all by doing something stupid — like making a lunge for her. Thanks for your time and responses! Love is an act of reaching out to care for some one else.
My friend Lorraine just burst out laughing when I tried it on with her — and her reaction hurt far more than the other two. Now I speak from experience. And in my experiences most of the time this comes from casual friends who ask me out and barely know me and then it's the end of the world and they will never love again and blah blah blah. Girls can actually be fun and be good friends without being sexual haha. Discussing college basketball, microbrews, sex and politics with your best guy friend may give you some relief from the typical girl drama you learn about at Sunday brunch with your roommates from college.
You might miss sex, and languish in a homely future with this person, but if you still feel uplifted by their presence then continue to hang out. Even with friendship, gender may play a role in how comfortable you feel. Having friends who are girls can be great and very helpful. Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever. Ultimately, just like how the girl is allowed to reject the relationship, he is allowed to reject the friendship if he feels that it's not a good idea anymore.