So that's something to consider. I'm 45 my youngest is 15. I know exactly what you said. I still am perplexed and saddened when i read some of the other posts by people who have been cheated on. I fought hard for this past relationship i was in for over a year but i was now a new victim of emotional violence.
So longevity of the relationship is also an issue. . In any case, it works, and works well. It is not good for you to be feeling fear and getting suspicious and checking his phone etc. I have been a victim and i can only say it really hurts bad.
They should not be condemned for making mature choices. If they can see it, they can judge you for it, without having to get to know either of you. I have come to terms with the fact that he might never change his mind. Presumably in this case, the church had reservations about this couples ultimate happiness, and the age gap was the biggest cause of concern. So he has dealt with nothing at all and in all honesty its like he is avoiding reality, like he has created his own version of reality and all the dellusions he thinks he is telling the people around him and because they dont know the truth they are going along with this perception so that he doesnt actually have to face the truth? The older is looking forward to things like retirement, taking life a little slower, whilst the younger tends to be thinking about the accomplishments they would like to run for. I'm going to wait for the blog. I smiled at him and he smiled back but when i found out his age that was it, he was 39 i was 17 - as far as i was concerned it would never happen! I am much more scared of the long list of thirtysomethings without a clue I've met and dated before, when no one objected to a 9 or 12-year age gap - as long as he was older! I am 21 almost 22 and my honey is 42.
She thinks I am probably in my late 20s-early 30s when in fact I am 47. I can only say I wish them all the best and a long life together. I am 36 yrs male and since childhood, i am very much interested in older women. I would hate it if he stayed with me out of concern or started seeing a younger woman behind my back. Threats made in the heat of emotion i. My step grandfather started dating my widowed grandmother when he was 24 and she was 40 with 2 children ages 16 and 17. And i seriously do not get his attraction to her, she isnt attractive i know that sounds mean but honestly if she was pretty i would say it.
Thats when we made some goals together as a couple for our future and our childs future. I think it better not to be on this web site any longer. So I won't have dreams and all that bs of us. Other problems we have faced are the constant 'looks' we are give when out and about - they make us both feel uncomfortable. When age 50 arrives women start to panic and think there not sexy anymore or that guys arent as attracted to them anymore. Perhaps you could explain why you think older women-younger men relationships don't get as much criticism. I am sure he loves you very much but people have all sorts of needs, both spiritual and physical biological and perhaps something like that is happening with him? Your success stories are really encouraging! I am trying very hard to push away my feelings for him.
If the minister had stated that the reason for not marrying them was the fact that she was a divorcee then people would be more likely to understand. And it colours everything like nothing else; the thinking being that if you've been misled in one area, what's the likelihood it won't happen in others and at other times. What is your sex life like? I think love is everything no matter what your age. Rhian M, England Age is just a number in the 21st Century. I think that's probably the case for most people.
A large age gap does not instantly exclude the ability to love. Don't let his gf intimidate you. My local minister refused to marry us, despite my being a member of that congregation for most of my life. And once you get married, many people experience a drop-off in sex. And mostly they are overweight, sad, mad and boring. Part of it is tempermental similarity, maybe lots of it is about that, and love and sweetness and having fun and working to support ourselves, and not wanting more than we have, and being pretty basically mentally healthy.
Also having a conversation with me to properly end our engagement so that the relationships we do have in the future can be healthy as we will be able to completely move on from one another. Dave, Wales Of course they shouldn't. His estranged wife lives in another state with his children. We have had our share of problems, like all couples, but they were never age-related. One involved domestic violence, which neither person would address. When I finally told them, they were hurt that I hadn't confided in them and then had adjustment issues with the age gap.